| Location | Newton Aycliffe |
| Age | 34 years |
| Cause of Death | Asthma Attack |
| Date of Birth | 20/10/1973 |
| Date of Death | 26/09/2008 |
| Visitors | 7,081 since 12/10/2008 |
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Daniel was an amazing man. A perfect Fiance, Daddy, Son, Brother and so much more to so many people.
We met in 2004 and in March 2005 moved in together. He took My daughter Caitlin on as his own and they loved each other from the start.
Our son Harry was born in January 2006 and Daniel was fantastic. He would get up in the night to do feeds and would happily change nappies.
Daniel and Harry only had 2 years and 9 months together but the time that they had was amazing. Daniel would come in from work and take over with Harry insisting all his spare time was spent with him. After putting him to bed he would come down and spend time with Caitlin helping her with her homework which normally led to them both messing about. Their lives have changed so much since he went but they were both blessed to have such love from him. He would do anything for them both and brought them both such happiness and Joy.
In him I found my soul mate and best friend and I thought we would be together forever. We loved each other so much and knew each other inside out. We both assumed that we would grow old together. I am incomplete now I have lost him. I didn't realise it was possible to feel so much pain but I wouldn't give up what we had for the world. I know one day we will be together again and until that day I will try and make him proud and bring up our children to be all the wonderful things he was.
Losing Daniel was sudden and tragic. I never imagined that day that I would lose him. If I had known, there would be so much I would have said to him but all I can hope for is that he knew just how much he was loved by us all.
Daniel was always a strong believer in organ donation and it makes me so proud that he has helped other people after his death.
He was strong, kind, courageous, loving and sensitive and it was an honour to be part of his life. We will never be the same without him and it seems so unfair that such a special person would be taken from his family that he doted on. Although life feels so hard I will forever be grateful that I got to have him in my life and I will treasure the memories he gave us all my life.
He will be forever missed by us all
My poem for Daniel
If I could have you back again, even for a day
I'd tell you all the unspoken words I never got to say
If I could have you back again, I'd hold on to you so tight
I'd whisper words of love to you until day turned into night
If I could have you back again, I could never let you go
I'd tell you all the things I feel that perhaps I didn't show
I know that this will never be and life seems so unfair
But even death cannot break the bond of love we share
THANK YOU
You don,t know me but i read your memorial on your soulmate daniel,s life and how much you loved him,
The reason i have written this tribute is because i have only one kidney and i know one day i am going to need a transplant i am now looking at kidney failure i want you to know,it is people like you who help us to live again,but i will tell you this, your soulmate is living inside not one but many others, it is your unselfish decision that has given people like me hope,
My heart goes out to you and i know your pain, but each time you look at your son remember this, somewhere out there his daddy lives on and when your time comes he,ll be there waiting for you of that i,m sure take care godbless maria xxx
Cosmic Love
A falling star fell from your heart and landed in my eyes
I screamed aloud, as it tore through them, and now it's left me blind
The stars, the moon, they have all been blown out
You left me in the dark
No dawn, no day, I'm always in this twilight
In the shadow of your heart
And in the dark, I can hear your heartbeat
I tried to find the sound
But then it stopped, and I was in the darkness,
So darkness I became
The stars, the moon, they have all been blown out
You left me in the dark
No dawn, no day, I'm always in this twilight
In the shadow of your heart
I took the stars from our eyes, and then I made a map
And knew that somehow I could find my way back
Then I heard your heart beating, you were in the darkness too
So I stayed in the darkness with you
The stars, the moon, they have all been blown out
You left me in the dark
No dawn, no day, I'm always in this twilight
In the shadow of your heart
The stars, the moon, they have all been blown out
You left me in the dark
No dawn, no day, I'm always in this twilight
In the shadow of your heart.
Lyrics from Florence and the Machine
It has been 18 months since we lost you. We think about you everyday. Life is starting to be easier for us all but we will never stop loving or missing you Daniel. It is still so unfair that we lost you when we did. We know you are looking over us and walk beside us everyday.
Love you always and forever, Kelly, Caitlin & Harry xxx
Smile
Smile though your heart is aching;
Smile even though it's breaking.
When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by.
If you smile through your fear and sorrow,
Smile and maybe tomorrow,
You'll see the sun come shining through…for you.
Light up your face with gladness,
Hide every trace of sadness.
Although a tear may be ever so near,
That's the time you must keep on trying,
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile,
If you just…smile.
That's the time you must keep on trying,
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just… smile. Smile!
Music by Charlie Chaplin
He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now; put out every one,
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun,
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods;
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
I Carry Your Heart With Me
I carry your heart with me
(I carry it in my heart)
I am never without it
(anywhere I go you go, my dear; and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my Darling)
I fear no fate
(for you are my fate, my sweet)
I want no world
(for beautiful, you are my world, my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you.
Here is the deepest secret nobody knows;
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart:
I carry your heart (I carry it in my heart).
By E E cummings.
I am home in Heaven, dear ones
Oh so Happy and so Bright
There is perfect joy and beauty
In this everlasting light.
All the pain and grief is over
Every restless tossing passed
I am now at peace forever,
Safely home in Heaven at last.
Did you wonder I so calmly
Trod the valley of the shade?
Oh! but Jesus' love illuminated
Every dark and fearful glade.
And He came Himself to meet me
In that way so hard to tread;
And with Jesus' arm to lean on,
Could I have one doubt or dread?
Then you must not grieve so sorely.
For I love you dearly still
Try to look beyond earths shadows
Pray to trust our Father's Will.
There is work still waiting for you.
So you must not idly stand;
Do now, while life remaineth
You shall rest in Jesus' land.
When that work is all completed
He will gently call you Home;
Oh, the rapture of that meeting,
Oh the joy to see you come!
To those I love,
Since we parted, you have been sharing so much of ME with those around you. The memories are so fresh and real. You hold on to me so tightly in your hearts - where I shall always be.
Your concern has always been for me, but I wonder how you are doing. You will never know all of the prayers that have been prayed for you, the tears that have been shed over your grief and the concern that has been shown for you in a multitude of ways, but I find it so comforting to know you haven't been left alone.
Please know that I am not alone, either. The death that hurt you the most has given me the gift of eternal life. God's promises have been fulfilled in me. When I left you, God was there, waiting, just as He promised. I am surrounded by perfect love. Never let anyone tell you God doesn't exist. If you need to be mad at Him for awhile, that's okay; He can handle it. But never let hate, anger or bitterness fuel your emotions. Talk to Him and let him talk to you. Listen for Him in the voices of the people who love and care about you.
It is comforting to know that you hold me so close while struggling with the prospect of letting me go. You need to know that we will always be together. Eternity is not 'out there,' eternity is now! I have simply moved a little farther ahead of you.
Remember that God never wastes anything - especially love. The love that we shared on earth will be even greater in Heaven. For now, you must rest assured that I am safe in God's perfect love. I would like you to take some of the love you have for me and share it with those around you. You can never run out of love - the more you give away, the more you will have. And let others love you . you are worth loving.
Life is forever....mine has changed in the twinkling of an eye while yours is changing day-by-day and minute-by-minute. Though your lives will never be the same, that does not mean that they cannot be filled with peace, joy and love. Always look to the future. Don't be afraid of tomorrow - God's already there.... Be patient with yourselves. You will make some mistakes, and you will even find yourselves not thinking about 'me' from time to time. That's all right too.... All of my needs are being met; you need to take care of you. Hold onto one another, help each other, give hope and love to all you meet.
Above all, be prepared to welcome others into your world of grief and mourning. You are being taught valuable lessons that will need to be passed along. Some will not have your strength, many will not have your faith, and most will feel they are all alone; but all will need the love and understanding only you will be able to give. Now, your pain is the only credential you need to minister to others. When you think of me, never think of me as being alone. Think of me as smiling, laughing and enjoying all that God has prepared for me.
Finally, never believe you are alone. Do not focus on what you have lost, but look always at what you have left. You are surrounded by people who love you and care about you. Live with them, love with them, share with them and laugh with them. Make every day a celebration of life - a life that will never end. We will meet again, and until we do, know that I am very proud of you for never giving up.
I love you!
Coldplay
Come up to meet ya, tell you I'm sorry
You don't know how lovely you are
I had to find you, tell you I need ya
And tell you I set you apart
Tell me your secrets, and nurse me your questions
Oh lets go back to the start
Running in circles, coming in tails
Heads on a science apart
Nobody said it was easy
It's such a shame for us to part
Nobody said it was easy
No one ever said it would be this hard
Oh take me back to the start
I was just guessing at numbers and figures
Pulling the puzzles apart
Questions of science, science and progress
Do not speak as loud as my heart
And tell me you love me, come back and haunt me
Oh and I rush to the start
Running in circles, chasing tails
Coming back as we are
Nobody said it was easy
Oh it's such a shame for us to part
Nobody said it was easy
No one ever said it would be so hard
I'm going back to the start
A Letter from your Angel
Dear Family,
I know this is a rough time for you. So I will be as gentle as I can be.
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First of all, thank you for so many thoughts, memories and wishes, particularly those shared with another that you love. They are a gift to me, a precious tribute to your investment in me.
As you do your mourning, do it at your pace only. Don't let anybody suggest that you do your grief work on their timetable. Do whatever it takes to face directly the reality of what has happened, even though you may need to pause frequently & yearn for my return. Do this with courage & my blessings.
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Know that sometimes inertia is the only movement possible. Give your best to keeping a balance between remembering me & renewing your commitments to life.
It's okay with me if you go through minutes, hours & even days not
thinking about me. I know that you'll never forget. Loosening me &
grabbing hold of a new meaning is a delicate art. I'm not sure if one comes
before the other or not, maybe it's a combination.
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Be with people who accept you as you are now.
Mention my name out loud, & if they don't make a hasty retreat, they're
probably excellent candidates for friendship.
If, by a remote possibility, you think that there is anything that you could have done for me & didn't, I forgive you, as my Lord does.
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Resentment does not abide here, only love. You know how people sometimes ask about your family? Well, I'm still yours & you are still mine. Always acknowledge that with tenderness, unless to do so
would fall on insensitive ears or would be painful to you. I know how
you feel inside. And I am honoured by your love.
Read, even though your tears anoint the page. There is an immense library here & I have a card. In Henri Nowens' "Out of Solitude" he writes, "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair & confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief & bereavement, who can tolerate not healing, & face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares."
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I don't know where you are spiritually now, but rest assured that our God is not gone. The still small voice you hear in your heart is His voice. The warmth that sometimes enfolds you is Him. The tears that tremble just beneath your heartbeat is Him. He is in you, as I am. I want you to know that I am okay.
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I have sent you messages to ease your pain, they come in the form of
flowers that bloom out of season, birds singing, voices & visions & sometimes through your friends & even strangers who volunteer as angels.
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Stay open but don't expect the overly dramatic :) You will get what you
need & it may be simply an internal peace. You are not crazy, you have been comforted.
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Please seek out people bereaved longer than you. They are tellers of
truth, & if they have done their work, are an inspiration & a beacon of hope
whose pain lessened dramatically.
One more wisdom before I close. There are still funny happenings in our world. It delights me to no end when I hear your spontaneous, uncontrolled laughter. That, too, will come again in due time.
Today, I light a candle for you. Joined with your candle, let their light shine above the darkness.
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Affectionately,
Your Loving Angel
Daniel xxxxxx
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